In Ayla’s case, like all others, there are sides. In her case there are three, Justin’s, Trista’s and Ayla’s and apparently if you’re on Ayla’s you automatically have to be on Trista’s and questioning anything about her makes you Anti-Ayla. After all the dealings with irrational DiPietro Groupies, I didn't think it was possible that Trista supporters would turn out to be just as unreasonable when it came to seeing all sides of this case, but I probably should have guessed. Shame on me. They appeared to be more open-minded and logical when it came to all the facts, not just the ones that damned the DiPietro’s and their supporters. It seemed that openly discussing any and all facts was possible without all the outrageous and insane jumping down throats action you would find on The Lying Blog Love Letter to Justin. Obviously, I was mistaken.
I dared to point out that EVERYONE, not just the Dips or the system, failed Ayla her entire life. And that includes Trista, regardless of whether or not some people choose to see that. Trista is not without fault in this ordeal, even though I believe Justin and his Ass-Coverers are ultimately to blame for whatever’s happened to Ayla. Everyone involved in Ayla’s life has made choices that contributed to this outcome and as much as it’s said that regardless of what Trista was doing in her life that Justin could have taken Ayla, you can’t ignore that through her actions she basically gave Ayla to him.
She could have been clean and sober and he would have taken her away anyway? Sure, but being clean and sober, Trista would have been in a better position to fight for her child and there wouldn’t be the ammo against her that there is now. And the Immaturity Excuse is getting old and people shouldn’t be stepping up to make excuses for her in the first place. She was not a child when she had Ayla and she is not a child now. The moment she found out she was going to have a child of her own she should have done all the growing up she needed to raise Ayla on her own. She didn’t do that. She may love Ayla like crazy and been the best Mommy to her while she had her, but it was because of her selfishness that Ayla ended up with Justin. Yeah, once she was faced with the reality of losing her kids if she didn’t quit drinking, she decided to do the unselfish thing, but why did it take someone else making that threat to get her to do right by her children? You cannot deny that she was selfish in her choices, regardless of how much better she is as a parent then Justin DiPietro. I still only see Trista as the lesser of two evils.
If Ayla came home today, I would want her to be with her mother, but not without the state checking in on her and Trista completing parenting classes, getting counseling and joining programs to help her be the best mother she can be to both her children, always. It may blow to hear that Trista’s decisions helped make this situation possible, but it is the truth. Comments that she doesn’t need to hear that and it contributes her grief might be nice for a good cajoling, but if she doesn’t want to hear or see what is said about her past or her mistakes and where she went wrong, then maybe being online isn’t the place for her to grieve. That’s realistic, right?
If Trista’s past is supposed to be irrelevant to the case, then wouldn’t Justin’s or Elisha’s or Phoebe’s or Courtney Roberts’ pasts also be irrelevant? It’s either all relevant or none of it is. The picking and choosing of which flaws to highlight and whose, doesn’t help find Ayla either, but day after day that’s exactly what’s done, on every side. I am only on Ayla’s side. You know, the girl that is supposed to be the main focus of this whole case. Team Trista and Team Justin are fair game and both epically failed Ayla in their own way, even though only one of them is solely responsible for Ayla now being missing. We’re supposed to be finding out and paying attention to all the facts, but it is obvious that some would rather ignore most of it if it doesn’t paint their side in the best light. That isn’t finding justice for Ayla or stopping any Lies.
I’m not playing Spy Games anymore and will no longer be covering Ayla’s case in any future write-ups. You can look to Shannie for those posts and if we could leave the tattling to the schoolyard that would be fabulous. Shannie is not my mother and doesn’t rein me in when a few people don’t approve of what I have to say. Also, because I’m a straightedge kinda chick, I don’t drink, much less drink and blog. It’s a shame that grown ass men and women would be so childish and petty.