Wednesday, April 11, 2012

No Apologies

     In Ayla’s case, like all others, there are sides. In her case there are three, Justin’s, Trista’s and Ayla’s and apparently if you’re on Ayla’s you automatically have to be on Trista’s and questioning anything about her makes you Anti-Ayla. After all the dealings with irrational DiPietro Groupies, I didn't think it was possible that Trista supporters would turn out to be just as unreasonable when it came to seeing all sides of this case, but I probably should have guessed. Shame on me. They appeared to be more open-minded and logical when it came to all the facts, not just the ones that damned the DiPietro’s and their supporters. It seemed that openly discussing any and all facts was possible without all the outrageous and insane jumping down throats action you would find on The Lying Blog Love Letter to Justin. Obviously, I was mistaken.
     I dared to point out that EVERYONE, not just the Dips or the system, failed Ayla her entire life. And that includes Trista, regardless of whether or not some people choose to see that. Trista is not without fault in this ordeal, even though I believe Justin and his Ass-Coverers are ultimately to blame for whatever’s happened to Ayla. Everyone involved in Ayla’s life has made choices that contributed to this outcome and as much as it’s said that regardless of what Trista was doing in her life that Justin could have taken Ayla, you can’t ignore that through her actions she basically gave Ayla to him.
      She could have been clean and sober and he would have taken her away anyway? Sure, but being clean and sober, Trista would have been in a better position to fight for her child and there wouldn’t be the ammo against her that there is now. And the Immaturity Excuse is getting old and people shouldn’t be stepping up to make excuses for her in the first place. She was not a child when she had Ayla and she is not a child now. The moment she found out she was going to have a child of her own she should have done all the growing up she needed to raise Ayla on her own. She didn’t do that. She may love Ayla like crazy and been the best Mommy to her while she had her, but it was because of her selfishness that Ayla ended up with Justin. Yeah, once she was faced with the reality of losing her kids if she didn’t quit drinking, she decided to do the unselfish thing, but why did it take someone else making that threat to get her to do right by her children? You cannot deny that she was selfish in her choices, regardless of how much better she is as a parent then Justin DiPietro. I still only see Trista as the lesser of two evils.
     If Ayla came home today, I would want her to be with her mother, but not without the state checking in on her and Trista completing parenting classes, getting counseling and joining programs to help her be the best mother she can be to both her children, always. It may blow to hear that Trista’s decisions helped make this situation possible, but it is the truth. Comments that she doesn’t need to hear that and it contributes her grief might be nice for a good cajoling, but if she doesn’t want to hear or see what is said about her past or her mistakes and where she went wrong, then maybe being online isn’t the place for her to grieve. That’s realistic, right?
     If Trista’s past is supposed to be irrelevant to the case, then wouldn’t Justin’s or Elisha’s or Phoebe’s or Courtney Roberts’ pasts also be irrelevant? It’s either all relevant or none of it is. The picking and choosing of which flaws to highlight and whose, doesn’t help find Ayla either, but day after day that’s exactly what’s done, on every side. I am only on Ayla’s side. You know, the girl that is supposed to be the main focus of this whole case. Team Trista and Team Justin are fair game and both epically failed Ayla in their own way, even though only one of them is solely responsible for Ayla now being missing. We’re supposed to be finding out and paying attention to all the facts, but it is obvious that some would rather ignore most of it if it doesn’t paint their side in the best light. That isn’t finding justice for Ayla or stopping any Lies.
     I’m not playing Spy Games anymore and will no longer be covering Ayla’s case in any future write-ups. You can look to Shannie for those posts and if we could leave the tattling to the schoolyard that would be fabulous. Shannie is not my mother and doesn’t rein me in when a few people don’t approve of what I have to say. Also, because I’m a straightedge kinda chick, I don’t drink, much less drink and blog. It’s a shame that grown ass men and women would be so childish and petty.

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  1. I may not totally agree with your thought process on this but I do agree that you are right to think that and I also think many agree with you. I do agree with you to some degree on the issue and I also was unaware of the situation until I was sent a message by Shannie. Just as I respect your right to your opinion, I also respect the right of those who disagree and who vocalized that as well. As far as emails and what not and what was said, that has nothing to do with me personally nor did any of what transpsired tonight. I am sorry that I am being punished because of it and do not think it is fair seeing how the actions of others do not fall on my shoulders, or at least they shouldn't and I am a little shocked that my blog was thrown together with JSTL's blog in your last sentence. It really made this whole debacle seem personal and that you also have an issue with me. I hope that is not the case

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    1. sorry, the last sentence of the next to last paragraph...

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    2. No, I don't have a personal problem with you. We're good...but it's clear that there are irrational zealots in both camps...and it's alienating people that aren't on either of those sides...which is incredibly shitty...

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    3. I do agree and glad that we are good. I think like with any missing child case, especially one with circumstances like these, people's emotions get the best of them and take over. I have tried to explain to people about perception and different viewpoints and to be tolerant and it goes on deaf ears...

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    4. What they're failing to realize is that the way they jump on people that aren't Pro-Trista, pushes people who are Anti-Justin away from wanting to support this case...and it's setting the whole purpose of your blog back. It also just proved all the stupid shit Lies says right. And I hate to say this, but I actually agree with Lies on this point. It has become "if you aren't with us, you're against us" and that is really fucked up to people who only care about Ayla and getting her justice.

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    5. WOW< I gotta say I agree. I even went in to defend Boo, and I got attacked. Why because pointing out that if Trista had done some things differently, if her family had been more supportive, maybe this situation wouldn't have occured? It's true! It so totally TRUE! I am not for kicking someone when they are down, but what Boo said was 100% accurate. The only one that suffered truly here was and is AYLA! Both sides have something to say about the other, and they aren't wrong for doing so ... Yes, Trist is in the grieving process I hope Justin is too, and why can we continue to make Justin look like the piece of shit he is as well as CR, Phoebe, Elisha JL, and the rest of the idots and not point out where Trista failed? The truth hurts sometimes, and it's a hard lesson learned for many. But I cannot believe that Boo was treated the way that she was last night and even this morning ... TOTAL BULL SHIT! And Boo, you are right it just made what Lies said to be true and thats a pretty crappy revelation for me to accept.

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    6. Phew, thank you Boo. I just read these comennts after posting my first two. I read from the bottom up. THANK YOU for restoring my faith and I'm happy you and Jeff are good again.

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  2. BooKat; You could be right, perhaps I am too close to knowing how Trista was with Ayla. While I do value thought out opposing comments, I don't see the need to re-hash Trista's ongoing nightmare http://www.answersforayla.com/p/tristas-fault.html. For me there is no side for Ayla, other than with Trista.

    Please be patient with me and the direction I need to take. I respect your opinions (and your humor :), and I hope you can forgive me when you see the bigger picture. I'm doing what I can with my hands tied behind my back. Jeff

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    1. Jeff-I think we all know that YOU and your family are out here for AYLA! and without a doubt for Trista. The blog post was to see how the Dip supporters think the way they do and if we can come together and ask civil questions of each other as adults. I for one, tried to put the shoe on the other foot for a day to see why they think the way they think. It is understandable to a degree why some feel the way they do, Trista is no angel. I have stated that I am not one for kicking someone when they are down, but pointing it out the way Boo did shouldn't have been "condemned" the way it was either. Both sides have made mistakes, I think everyone knows this. But we cannot be hypocrits and do unto Justin and say anything said about Trista is without comapassion or unacceptable. Boo was treated very unfairly because of her no regrets policy, and the fact that she DOES NOT beat around the bush. Both parents made a lot of mistakes with Ayla and Ayla's lifestyle, that is a fact. It cannot be disputed. She is 100% right in saying that she hopes the best for Trista, for her kids sake. No reason to apologize, let's just move forward. :)

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    2. Excuse me ... lol ... John P always makes me think. He is very insightful :) For that I will say let bygons be bygons and let's get back to finding Ayla! It's for the best, and there will be no more Trista pointing from me on any site. I am sorry myself if I offended anyone. I for one was just trying to understand what the Dip supporters and Dips themselves see. There was no hurt intended to anyone.

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    3. Jeff, I think the way you went about it, and sent me the email, when you could have just sent it to boo, made this even worse.

      We are for Ayla and have supported trista,and jeffs family. When I got that email, I said fuck it, and why bother. The time for saving face has passed.

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    4. Look, you think by calling Boo a drunk is somehow above JSTL? If you do than by all means move the fuck on.

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    5. Uh oh. Is this for real????????? I just read this after my last post. Did this blog get hi jacked?

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    6. In what way Maggie Leigh?
      Good post by the way...

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    7. At the risk of angering you, I am surprised at the hostility towards Jeff in public. Emails can be sent by everyone no? I feel badly his grand daughter is gone, most likely murdered at the hands of Justin and company. I feel like he has done an exceptional job staying calm and if the man has an outburst of two, he deserves patience under the circumstances. The good news is that I saw after this post that Boo and Jeff are moving on. I have grown to enjoy this blog and I check it several times a day. I guess with you gals always being so open and honest, I never could have predicted reading an open fire attack on a victim in this case. It just seems surreal.

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    8. you don't anger me maggie Leigh...I have nothing but sadness and sympathy towards Trista and her family...ayla has touched so many peoples hearts and I can't imagine what Trista feels or how she functions....This is not an open attack on the victim. Not at all.

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    9. Thank you Shannie. It seems we are all here for Ayla. I have gone overboard at times commenting for Ayla. You're so right, Ayla has touched so many hearts, mine as well. We got our tax money yesterday, I think I'm going to go out and shop and get outside for a few hours. Maybe I'll come back to share some good news with you and everyone else.

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  3. Jeff, you have nothing to be forgiven for. Your efforts in the search for Ayla are commendable.

    BooKat, I respect your opinion and believe you have every right to express it freely and often. I would like to just respectfully disagree on one point: JSTL does not have point about anything.

    I'll concede that there are some crazy-ass zealots who post in the comments of Tori's blog. But, that's no reflection on the blog itself. This situation has made a lot of people angry, and many of them appear unable to articulate their thoughts without throwing in some lunacy.

    To me, the fact remains that in order for any of JSTL assertions to make sense about Trista, Jessica or anyone (other than Justin), you have to completely ignore the evidence we've been privy to so far. Whereas, at J4A, the posts that lead us down the path to Justin are rooted in what can actually be verified in this case.

    Looking at the evidence available, logic almost requires one to be anti-Justin. Tori and her blog contributors typically create posts based on what little facts we know to be true. While at JSTL, nearly every post that crazy woman makes are based on delusions and purposely ignoring what the police have told us so far.

    Each site has their set of crazies posting in the comments. But, so does every site on the internet. And, half of JSTL's crazies are likely sock-puppets. Personally, I don't see how blog wars help anyone (least of all Ayla). I also don't see how anyone addressing JSTL directly is of any help either. Outing her to anyone other than LE is pointless. It's a blog that receives like 15 comments on each post, a third of which are likely from sock puppets.

    Bottom line - I do not see JSTL and J4A as equals in any fashion, except that they both seem to bring out the whackadoodles in their comment sections. I won't address anything about "Team Justin" and "Team Trista", because I don't think such things should even exist.

    At any rate, I like your blog and I love your (and Shannie's!) sense of humor. I'll continue to read here, regardless of whether I agree with you or not. And, just because I disagree with you somewhat in this particular instance, I feel no need to attack you personally or write you off in any way.

    Mostly, I think it's important that people ignore JSTL and put the focus back on Ayla. No teams, no sides, just doing what we can to keep Ayla in the spotlight and keep the pressure on those who have harmed her.

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    1. Okay, I didn't intend for that to be so damn long. Clearly, I can't articulate my point without writing a fucking novel LOL. (I'm working on it, I promise!).

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    2. I enjoyed it...longer the better, StacieDeezy ;)

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  4. I value Shannie and Boo's opinions and feelings. I value J4A's opinions and feelings. I value Jeff's opinion's and feelings. I don't think Shannie should be attacked for having the opinions that she stated. She used a few choice words, but was actually not rude, nor did she do so in a mean, belittling way. No one should be attacked for having their own feelings and opinions, as long as they themselves are not attacking.

    What Shannie stated is technically true, as harsh as it may seem. Trista, as a Mother, should not have had an addiction/dependency - in a perfect world. It's true she was not a child when she became a Mother, therefore, maybe she should have known better - in a perfect world. Do any of her decisions/choices have to do with Ayla being "missing"? Yes AND No. These are things Trista will have to live with for the rest of her life; every minute of every day. At the same time, if this was Justin's plan, he would have found a way to complete it, no matter what.

    All that being said, I do think Trista loves both her kids, with her whole heart. If she has been immature and naive in the past, she can not allow herself that "luxury" any further. I think she absolutely did the right thing, as a Mother, for her kids, when entering rehab/detox. Should she have done so sooner? Probably, yes. It's not that simple and cut and dry though. I have a completely different view on addiction, than probably a lot of people. It is a disease. Some people do not believe that as fact, but please, please research the matter before totally disagreeing. Some people's mind and body becomes addicted, without the person making a conscience decision to do so. Who would WANT to be an addict? Admitting being an addict and on top, admitting to needing treatment is one of the most difficult realizations an addict can ever make. Does that mean they are wonderful and everything they've ever done, while addicted, should be forgiven? No.

    The bottom line is, IMO, yes Trista is not perfect. I don't think anyone could honestly say she is, or they are, or anyone is. But I do see a Mother who loves her kids and ended up choosing them over her addiction. Some people never do that, nevermind at such a young age. In court, this is ALL going to be brought up, right or wrong, cruel or not, rude or not. Should this take away from Justin, his family and what he and them have done and not done? No, I don't think so. To me, it doesn't even compare. I don't think people should be attacked for their opinions, especially if there is truth to it, no matter how harsh it may seem.

    It hurts my heart to see Trista attacked WRONGLY (such as, at JSTL), it even hurts my heart some, when true faults are pointed out, which I think is due to the negative, unnecessary, wrongful true attacks.

    Sorry this is so long, but I do value everyones opinions as long as they are not truly attacks. I think whatever happened to Ayla would have happened no matter what, but maybe was made just a little easier due to Trista needing to care for her addiction. But please, research alcoholism addiction/dependency, to maybe see where I am coming from in not fully blaming Trista for having such a problem and taking action against her problem.

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    1. Yes at JATL Trista is being slammed for the wrong things, we weren't slamming her, Boo was explaining how she feels and there was no made up bullshit she used to make her point. But I guess somepeople just can't handle that truth when it comes from her. I don't know, I'm pissed off Boo was treated like this and I'm really let down with some people.

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    2. I was surprised people were so angry towards Boo too. Very surprised. I too felt badly for Boo. I agree Ayla was failed by everyone in some manner, but some were far worse than others. What has been learned by the whole world and Ayla's family now turns to be a little too late in saving Ayla. I think Justin and his family were the worst failures however and the mental and physical abuse she suffered at their hands was at the very least, a massive failure to Ayla. My anger towards my belief that Justin murdered Ayla is an anger that surpasses any anger I have felt in my life. IMO, he is the worst and most intentionally evil person in this scenario. I equal his evilness to that of Charles Manson and his followers. Again Boo, I'm sorry that people jumped on you for stating an opinion that many others share. I think you are a tough gal and I believe you can shake it off and continue your blog to help Ayla and talk'n shit about everything else that comes to mind. Hugs my friend.

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    3. I totally understand and agree. The few things that Boo pointed out/questioned are true and not BS. I've seen you both defend Ayla AND Trista and her family, with full force. The things Boo talked about are going to be questioned (especially in court), by a lot of people. They can't be ignored. They are skeletons that are not going to be put in the back of her closet until a trial is over, and probably never for her. I think people don't want to see/hear/admit anything negative of Trista, because maybe they think it makes Justin "look" good. No, it doesn't. If we made a list of wrong, negative TRUE FACTS for both Trista (and her family) and justin (and his family), I think one side wouod be WAAAAY longer than the other (and we can all figure out who's list would be longer). Plus, we don't even hardly know anything about Justin yet, all (some, most?) Trista's faults have been made public already. I guess peoples emotions got the better of them, and attacked Boo, for pointed out true facts and her opinions. That really shouldn't be happening because it does happen elsewhere way to often. I think most people can see the true facts (that we know so far anyway). Questioning Trista's faults does not mean she is guilty of harming, hurting, murdering, kidnapping Ayla. Most people know which parts of Ayla's "story" is BS, and which parts are not.

      I hope you guys continue to follow/comment on Ayla's case, for Ayla. You shouldn't bother worrying about how others view your opinions, because most can see that you have Ayla in your thoughts, comments, posts etc.

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    4. I think Boo is taking a step back from the case, and I might cover the assumed guilty parties actions (and lack of actions)in this case. You guys are all awesome and we loved getting to know you all...you're a smart bunch of peeps and you guys crack us up. We will still be around... :)

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    5. Shannie I can't blame for Boo taking a break. I think many of us have felt that way, myself in the past 2 days. The people who are attacked viciously, like Boo was treated get exhausted trying to explain an opinion. Boo, you do what you need to do and I'll be watching and praying every day that you come back soon but only when you're ready. xoxoxo

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    6. ITA Maggie Leigh.

      I wasted time yesterday finding a link to a news article just to prove I'm not a liar. I ask myself, is it worth it? To me, my time is worth if for Ayla, but not for rude, attacking Anon's. I'm not going to waste my time for such nonsense any further. I will spend time only for Ayla, because that is not a waste.

      I look forward to new news and facts and Ayla's case moving forward and justice being served in Ayla's name.

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  5. Ooops! I'm sorry!! I meant Boo, not Shannie!

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  6. You shouldn't apologize because it's the truth.

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  7. I'm sorry that Boo felt attacked. Obviously, there's some stuff going on that I'm not privy to, so I'm not going to tell anyone how they should be reacting here.

    I didn't even read all of the responses on the J4A blog, because quite frankly - I get a headache trying to read the "Anon" posts that completely lack punctuation. (And, I scroll on by some of the more egregious nutters).

    At any rate, I have valued Shannie & Boo's contribution to the discussion at J4A thus far, and I'm disappointed if we'll be without that in the future.

    But, I do understand if whatever has transpired makes you feel as though it isn't worth it to participate.

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    1. Me too. I had to stop reading after all the BS started with Boo. I just checked it again and I couldn't finish reading it. It made me sick. I hope they change their cover soon so we can move onwards. I'm over the BS that happened there, it was like reading the trash on JSTL blog.

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    2. Tori is trying to do the right thing, and I admire her for her efforts. In the future though, I think she might want to keep a tighter reign on some of her blog contributors. It's the story on the main page that directs the discussion, and I think this last post by JMH, while well-intentioned, created an unnecessary shit storm.

      The post itself almost begged for people to choose a side. I get what JMH was trying to do (i.e. have those blind Justin supporters give ANY logical reason for their deluded stance). But, it derailed quickly.

      I give Tori credit for leaving ALL of the comments up and maintaining an open discussion. People need to learn that you can still "like" people you completely disagree with. And, attacking other commenters on a personal level should just be left to those nutters on Facebook.

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    3. I agree for the most part StacieDee. I could see that storm brewing and wasn't going to bother commenting on that post, plus because I thought they mostly wanted people who think Justin is innocent and think Trista is guilty to give true facts as to why they think so. I think I only had 1 comment that didn't have anything to do with the topic. I think the intention was harmless and truly searching for facts as to why some may think that way. That would and should be perfectly fine, but I didn't foresee the results ending well. The only thing is, I think they should be able to bring up whatever topic they choose, but just be prepared for it to possibly not go as planned. I'm not sure, I assume J4A must have approved the post. There was really nothing wrong with it, except knowing the fact that all people can't disagree in a civil manner. I don't think they should edit their posts or try to keep everyone happy. I too give credit to J4A, she's stated right along she would like discussions to be open and everyone is entitled to their opinions. And she doesn't usually delete anything, unless it is something extrely uncalled for, which is great too. They can't help how people feel/comment. I think you're right, the whole thing derailed quickly.

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  8. I've never seen so much judgemental people in my life as I've seen on the pages and blogs for Ayla. You are right, there is Team Trista and Team Justin. Both teams have totally forgotten about team AYLA. If a person on Team Trista doesn't follow Team Justin's line of thinking then team Trista must be horrible people. If a person in Team Justin doesn't follow Team Trista's line of thinking then team Justin must be horrible people. It's worse than the Hatfield and the McCoys! I don't care what good Team Justin (TLLOM) or Team Trista (J4A) do for the good of Ayla, it will all be lost in the bickering and backstabbing between the two. (Don't get me wrong, I'm not talking everyone, I'm talking about the ones who are talking ABOUT other people!)

    So what, some people believe Justin is guilty and some people believe Trista (or her family) are guilty. Neither side knows for sure what happened to Ayla. That's a fact. But they come of like self-righteous bitches, holier than thou know it alls. And if you dare speak against them, they will beat you down with their lethal nasty comments. Oh my! Immature and judgemental.

    BooKat, you shouldn't even give their nasty comments to you at J4A another thought. The people who act that way are childish and haven't learned how to be adults yet. They might some day, but I wouldn't hold my breath waiting for it to happen.

    The very people who feel they are being bashed, talk trash about others and think they have the right to do it because they felt bashed. They've stopped talking about Ayla and they spend their hours talking about each other. They are like 5 year old children fighting over a toy. I hate to say that, because it's insulting to the 5 year olds, but I'm not sure how else to describe their actions.

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  9. I agree with you 100%. I consider myself to be an Ayla supporter as well and completely on team Ayla, nothing else. While I do think Trista is innocent when it comes to Ayla being missing, I do think she is guilty of contributing to this event.

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  10. BooKat,

    I'm only with you about 50% on this one. I read your comments on J4A and I was disappointed a little but not really surprised. I respect that you say what you feel. I didn't comment on the "Teams" page because everything I would have said had already been posted by someone in one fashion or another . Just because I didn't like your comments in general doesn't mean there is no truth to them. I can stand back and view this with more detachment than Jeff can. I think he felt betrayed and lashed out. I completely understand that you want to back off , many of us are tired of the constant back and forth,but it's not really an option for Jeff . Please keep doing what you've been doing. You girls are great.I'm sure I'll be back up to 100% on your next non-Ayla related post! OT, I am a Jon Lovitz fan...now thats creepy.

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    1. Jim your comment is appreciated, and I think you for it. Boo was not siding with lies or trying to slam trista , she was putting into perspective what it is we are all here for AYLA....and we support Jeff and trista but do not join that team for the sake of being on it. Sorry it doesn't make sense to us. We have defended Trista to the fullest, and have gone to bat for her family. Never have we said she lied or took ayla, or made up horrible things about her, or made her past be subject of ridicule....we just don't side with team Trista...We are team Ayla.

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  11. Trista did contribute to Ayla's disappearance by allowing Ayla to be in Justin's care. She reports that she had suspicions of abuse, but she failed to report them in a timely manner. Had those suspicions been reported -- other than in a, "By the way, doctor, can you report this week-old pulled muscle, bruise, etc?", manner, it is unlikely (though not completely out of the question) that any strings pulled by a DHHS worker would have put Ayla back in that setting.

    Why didn't Trista report the suspected abuse? Based on the text messages -- and granted, we only have one side of them -- it looks like Trista was still dealing with a major crush on Justin, and I use this school-girl terminology because I think that's the mentality we're dealing with. In those text messages, she just didn't want this boy she liked to be mad at her -- this is three months into the disappearance of her daughter in said boy's care.

    Do I think she loved her daughter? All appearances would suggest that. Do I think she was immature? Absolutely. Does that give her a pass for not making her daughter the priority in this equation? Absolutely not.

    So, yes, she shares some of the responsiblity for whatever happened to Ayla. Did she have an active role in Ayla's disappearance? I don't think so. Did she have a passive one -- yes, Trista's passivity was probably her greatest failing as a parent, especially with regard to Ayla.

    Sorry my points are not stated in a more articulate fashion, but after going through so many attempts to get them posted, one gets worn out.

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  12. I'd also like to add that seeing Boo's post tonight tells me this is where I should've been hanging out while following this case, because I have a really low tolerance for b.s. So, Boo, I'm sorry you're stepping back because I think your direct approach is what is needed.

    Whoever was in charge of comments on J4A last night did not publish all of them. I attempted several times to post in support of Boo & my posts kept disappearing.

    Given the sometimes polarizing effect of J4A, I don't think the the comparisons to JSTL are completely without merit.

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    1. I am a little late coming to view the rest of the comments here but if comments were disappearing it was not because we were deleting them. If we delete a comment it will still have your name there but the body of your comment will say comment removed by blog administrator. Sometimes when there are a lot of comments coming in at the same time, comments may get posted sometimes long enough to get a response and will go to the spam folder. I check the spam folder a few times a day and make sure any comments that go there and shouldn't be there are posted.

      With that being said, I am a little disgusted that you would think that I would purposely delete comments defending Boo in order to try to attack her. Also when the comment counts hits over 100 or some number if you look on the bottom of the page there is a button that says load more, I am positive your comments are there if you look correctly.

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  13. To Shannie and Boo,

    I hope this doesn't get deleted because of who is posting it. This is my first time to post here though I have read many articles by the two of you. Jim states very clearly above what my comments on J4A were intending to say. Your 1:30 post was and is a valid opinion. I even commented with agreement with what you said in that post. I respect both of your opinions and I respect what both of you have done for Ayla even more. Though I sometimes disagree, I still respect what both of you bring to the fight for Ayla. The 5:30 post was the one I did not agree with. Not because I felt what you were saying was wrong, but because I felt after Jeffs' comment you might have let off the gas a bit. The page Tristas Fault on A4A touched on alot of what you were saying and I read how fucked-up Trista felt when she went through the guilt stage of the grieving process. After what I have seen in my life and experienced personnally, I know ALOT about grief and disappointment and I was trying to explain that. That was all I was trying to say. I also was not trying to come off as hollier than thow or as a know it all as I did to Shannie. I apologise for that. I was not trying to attack anyone.
    You stated your opinions, they were heard, and you caught alot of shit for it. I get that! Trista was not the best parent she could have been to her kids. She was trying to correct that. She was and is probably immature. And you feel she to learn how to deal with the public better. I get all that. I even agree with about 85% of what you said on that page. So what, I am just an old ass grandfather and retired veteran with my own opinion that sometimes differs from yours. No big fucking deal right?
    BUT, what you BOTH have done for Ayla is fantatic, and will be fantastic if you don't back away. Please don't let that one page deter you both from fighting to find Ayla.
    I do not know nor do I need to know what happened in the e-mails, what happened before or after. The bottom line is this:

    Boo, please do not back away or change the way you fight for Ayla!! It would be one less person fighting for her, and she needs everyone in that fight!

    Thanks for you time and sorry for being so winded on your blog.

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  14. It is disappointing to see that my comment and opinions were deleted. If I can ask, Why? I thought that was what this was all about, having an opinion and standing behind it! I guess I was wrong.

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  15. Sorry it posted for like 5 minutes then disappeared. I hope you were able to see it before it went to whereever it goes when caught as spam. I am not familiar enough with how these blogs work.

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  16. I maintain that if Ayla is not alive there is only one person responsible for that and it's the person who commited the crime. Like a rape victim, it does not matter how the victim dressed etc. Ultimately it is the rapist fault. If trista had no addiction problems Ayla would still be missing because Justin would probably be having Ayla for visits anyway. I'm not sure if she was certain that abuse was going on, questioned and maybe had no one to bounce it off from to come to a conclusion on that. Regarless, the person who did the crime is the guilty party.
    When and if there is a murder trial, JD's head will be on the block and tristas back ground has nothing to do with that, she will not be the one on trial.
    What will be say, that if Trista did not have an adiction problem I would not have commited this crime? Yeah, he probably will, that will help him huh?
    I do not think that personal atttachs of one anothewr serves any purpose and I do think it important to have all opinions out there and for discussions to continue. One never knows what info may come out that serves as the road to Ayla coming home.

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    1. Is a rape comparison really how this case is being looked at? In a rape you have a victim and a perpetrator. And nothing the victim of a rape does ever makes them responsible for being forcibly violated. What does the comparison to rape have to do with Ayla's case? The only way the rape comparison works is in that Ayla is the only victim and those around her, those responsible for her, are the ones that made what's happened possible. The way your comment comes off is that Trista and Ayla are bundled into one as victims and while, yes, Trista did get fucked over, ultimately the only real victim in this case is still Ayla. Or maybe I missed where this case became Justice For Trista and Ayla became a footnote.
      In Ayla's case there is only one real victim and that is Ayla because she's the one who gone missing, the one whose disappearance is being investigated. All those around her contributed to what the situation is now. Ayla is completely faultless and was at the mercy of those who were supposed to be taking care of her.
      It is all well and good to feel sorry for Trista because Ayla didn't "go missing" when she was with her mother, but looking at this case as a whole and as an outsider, you can see the whole picture and that is that everyone on every single side failed this child.
      And I do think Trista was also failed by her own family and that is part of the reason she didn't know what the fuck to do. I've seen valid questions thrown out by others and either missed the answers or no one bothered to reply. All these questions lead to why everyone in this case failed Ayla. Trista was failed to, to an extent, but she was Mom and being the best mom to Ayla from the start was her duty. Why wasn't anyone in Trista's family helping her before CPS dropped the hammer and told her to get her ass to rehab? Why was she living in a hotel? Why didn't all these people that have come forward to now help her out when Ayla's gone help Trista when Ayla was still with her? Why did it take the unimaginable for people in Trista's life to step up for her and Ayla? Where was everyone when Trista was a new and clueless mom, struggling and need of direction? Why, when it's too little too late, does everyone suddenly know what's best and the right thing to do? They didn't know how to go about helping Trista get her shit together before Ayla was ripped away and given to Justin?
      The closest this case gets to rape is that Ayla is the victim and Justin the perpetrator, but if we want to make the rape comparison, Trista would be like an accomplice for putting Ayla in Justin's hands with her actions. Look at it like the wing man that makes it possible for his buddy to get at some chick by playing interference for him, by distracting her fugly friend. The actions of the wing man make it possible to lure the unsuspecting victim away from the safety of her friend. The wing man might not know his buddy's intentions, but by playing interference and distracting the friend he's cleared the obstacles and made it easier for his buddy to get the victim alone. Trista would be the like the wing man, even though she wasn't doing anything with the intention of Ayla coming to harm. But again, I don't think the comparison of rape to a missing child is a good way to go about seeing this case. It's actually a pretty shitty comparison and doesn't really apply.

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    2. Accomplice isn't the right word so insert something else that's a better fit. The wing man wouldn't be an accomplice either, but like Trista in Ayla's case, the wing man played a part in what happened to the victim. Even if it wasn't a big part.

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    3. I think you hit the nail on the head when you said it was a pretty shitty comparison and didn't apply. This is somewhat reminiscent of what I feel about this blog. It is definitely "shitty" and you need to stop spending time blogging while collecting your welfare check like the other fat whore JARL and start "applying" for some real jobs sister!;)

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    4. The anonymous douchebag that spends their night commenting on a "shitty" blog that irks them so much they keep coming back is probably not the one who should be giving advice. To anyone. Shit's in the title, so if you want to rip on it maybe come back with a different bodily function to insult it with. As for the unoriginal "fat-whore-welfare-get a job" add-on at the end, it doesn't apply, so next time you come around to give even more traffic to a blog you that gets under your skin, maybe you should have some better insults lined up. I hear Yo Mama's are still popular and since you're a beginner that would be a good place for you to start. Glad to know we can count on you for more hits because I guarantee you'll be back. Gluttons for punishment, getting off on shit that they supposedly can't stand. My parting request is that you don't nut on our front page.

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  17. Still with Boo on the entire issue. I really hope that regardless of the outcome, a clearly-defined parenting plan is drawn up for Ray.

    And again, Quoting Boo, there are irrational zealots on both sides of this issue.

    I don't think that anyoen is suggesting that anyone othher than the person responsible for Ayla's disappearance is the one who should be prosecuted.

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    1. Yeah, I never once said Justin isn't the one ultimately to blame for whatever's happened to Ayla. When I want news on what's going on in Ayla's case I'm not going to anyone's blog for it anymore. There's already JSTL's Giant Love Letter to Justin and Justice For Ayla is more like Pity Party For Trista, giving her Ayla's victim status and making it impossible to post anything that isn't totally Pro-Trista without some anonymous douche throwing a shit fit. I thought that site was supposed to be more Ayla focused and not doing the sides thing as much, but that assumption was obviously wrong. Just more failing to realize that there are other's that do only care about Ayla and don't want to be on either parents side.

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  18. How about keeping Ayla's picture off the same page you have a dildo posted on you skeezy bitch.

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    1. That's not a dildo, dipshit. It's a demonstration on how an anti-rape device works. Get a fucking clue.

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    2. Oops, how ignorant of me. I will try again.

      Dear Miss,

      While I know it is like asking Justin Dipieteo to tell the truth, could you please refrain from being a cheap, ghetto trick long enough to not show cock on the same page as a sweet baby's face? I know your fat, dimpled ass has not seen much since you put on the welfare-hondo but for the love of God show a little restraint.

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    3. Well, at least you're aware of your shortcomings when it comes to your ignorance. I'll refer you to any one of my replies to your rant-spam. Take your pick. And work on your shit slinging arm, your aim is off. Psst, your ineptitude is showing.

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  19. Ayla's supporters do not have to rehash Trista's admitted problems before Justin forcibly took her. Trista owns up to them and kills herself everyday for them. She agrees with everything Boo says about her. Problem is, Boo has said all of this ad nauseum. I think it is actually her favorite topic. She spends more time fighting with Trista's supporters than she does fighting with the one's responsible for Ayla's disappearance and possible death. YES we know Trista ws an addict and irresponsible, anything new Boo or are you just "keeping it real" and making sure we remember you were one of the first to take her to task. You looking for bonus points or Justice for Ayla?

    Hey Boo, don't you dare fucking come at Ayla's supporters for focusing on the events that happened after Justin took "ownership" of Ayla. THESE ARE THE FACTS. You tell me who is focusing on Justin's past before he took ownership of Ayla? Who bitch? Nobody. THESE are the important facts, what Trista did before to put Ayla in this situation has nothing to do with who actually neglected, abused, and possibly killed her. Unless you think Trista or a Family member/friend snuck in, dropped Ayla, picked her up with a gaping head-wound and carried her out of 29 Violett without being heard. I mean, you did slip in that mention of the "car" Trista had the night of the "alleged" abduction. Hey, this might mean something, if the police hadn't already all but cleared her and the EXACT date of Ayla's "demise" err, disappearance were known.

    Maybe McCausland will have Ben McKenna write a blurb giving you credit for "outing" Trista as an addict and bad mother who is half-responsoble for whatever happened to Ayla after the guilty are put away for life. You'd like that huh.

    Yeah, how about showing some class and keeping the Dildo's at least on a different page than Ayla you disrepectful trashy whore.

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    1. Obviously, you haven't read shit that's been written on this blog and are talking out of your ass. Why don't you go fucking read up and see who's been regularly slammed on this blog, clownshoe. You don't like what's said here? Simple fucking solution, don't come here. Ever heard of out of sight out of mind? Test it out for yourself. This site isn't dedicated only to Ayla's case, though it has taken up a good deal of posts. It isn't Talkin' Shit About The Ayla Reynolds Case 24/7 With Shannie and Boo. Don't like what's said about the people who failed Ayla? Shove it up your ass and move the fuck on. You and the other little psychotic zealous minions on Justin and Trista's side don't dictate what is said or posted up here, so if it tickles mine or Shannie's fancy to toss up something graphic and offensive, tough shit. Deal with it. And I'll refer you to the above post on what you're mistaking for a dildo. I would think someone who is one would know what one looks like, but apparently not. Perhaps you just mistook that reflection of yours for an inside out vagina, pussbag. Happy trails.

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    2. Looks like someone had the nerve to standup to the foul-mouthed hate monger running this laughable blog(no that doesn't mean funny moron).
      Shannie is almost as bad bug not as ugly. I doubt Trista Reynolds cares what either trashy trailer-parker says about her. I wonder if Boo-Scat has to wear a clothespin on her nose when she types her rancid rubbish? The stench has to be unbearable at the origin as even after traveling thousands of miles over cables of varying insulation, I have to move my laptop away from my plants as her malodorous emanations have killed 3 plants and actually killed a ferret who wandered to close to the screen while I read one or Boo-Scats cowflops.

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    3. Yep, she is a hooker. Boo cannot help it. She didn't even graduate from high school. Can't get better than a min wage job and a boyfriend who doesn't do drugs and pimp her shitty ass out for rent money. She is fixated on feces for some insane reason and she could really use some mental health therapy. Not that it would help with her daddy issues but one can hope that she'd get her sexual kink under control and start caring about herself. Seriously, posting pics of dicks is just really distasteful. But them, so is using and being obsessed with the word shit. How totally immature.

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  20. You have gotten one thing right hooker, I don't read this blog. Why the dick would I? You two brainless hussies are the owners of quite possibly the most desolate blog on the planet. It is no wonder you are trolling Tori's blog "fishing" for someone to read your virtual "shit-sammich". Jessie whose idea was this clusterfuck? Its like two crackhead(straight my ass) got tired of sucking the glass dick long enough to take an introductory blogging class given by their pimp and just started throwing shit up on a wall and seeing if they got any hits..besides the ones they were getting from the pimp and their pipes. Well, they average Luke 3 comments per post so Boo stopped shoving twinkies and fleshrockets into her freezer-sized cum-catcher long enough to troll Tori's site and lo and behold, a 50-plus comment thread!

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    1. So if you don't read this blog, how exacty did you get here? The comment counting sounds like more Lies bullshit, but since the Trista Zealots have proven themselves to be just as irrational as Lies and her followers, I guess it could be a shit disturber from either side. Either way, vent away in as many stupidity-laced comments as you like. They'll be here when you get back tomorrow and the next day...and the next day...and the next day. FYI, the crap you guys sling like rabid monkey's doesn't help your case. Remember that the next time someone who actually wants answers and justice for Ayla says something that shoves an non-removable stick up your ass. Pushing people away from awareness is probably the last thing anyone wants, but that's exactly what you're getting by acting like petulant and unreasonable dickstains.

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  21. Boo, it's just Lies looking to get away from her husbands gospel raps for a few minutes...

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    1. The Holy Rollin' Hip Hop finally got to her, huh...

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  22. I fucking love your blog.

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